Divorced people?

Donnell Nocella: celticbuddah has the right answer.

Elden Dedon: Okay people tell me WHY this was the hardest thing you ever went through. Please expand on this question.

Devon Kalberer: Yes, there's a marriage license to get before any couple could be married.

Samatha Nicar: Do you have children? Im going through the thoughts now after 13 years being together. I 'm the career girl and the bread winner. He is a really good father. I'm so confused.

Maye Delk: are you trying to break up with her - if so just tell her she's to complicated.... that always works.....

Claire Billegas: When you get time could you read it and get back to me. Every year thousands of Christians amble down to their local county courthouse and obtain a marriage license from the State in order to marry their future spouse. They do this unquestioningly. They do it because their pastor has told them to go get one, and besides, "everybody else gets one." This pamphlet attem! pts to answer the question - why should we not get one?1. The definition of a "license" demands that we not obtain one to marry. Black’s Law Dictionary defines "license" as, "The permission by competent authority to do an act which without such permission, would be illegal." We need to ask ourselves- why should it be illegal to marry without the State’s permission? More importantly, why should we need the State’s permission to participate in something which God instituted (Gen. 2:18-24)? We should not need the State’s permission to marry nor should we grovel before state offi...Show more

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Rosalia Hibler: Can't get along ? Well she resents you for some reason if that is the fact or is it because she is not into you anymore and wants to drive you away? ask her what her problem is? if it is that she resents you for whatever...... whats the point in going on .. might as well fine another woman and she can find another man that she would hiss ! at when she needs to vent her problems out! sounds like she ha! s no care of your feeling.....unless of coarse there is more to this story.let us know!...Show more

Daria Verfaillie: sadly enough most divorces aren't really necessary. what spurs them on is the couple not being able to cope with things as a team, and giving up too easily, and more often then not for the wrong reasons.there's always exceptions to the rule. those you are dealing with repeated affairs, abuse of some sort, addictions, etc. some people cope better as a single person, others do not. it's really up to the individual. my soon to be ex is a womanizer, so being married just got in his way of having "fun". where as for me, i'm a single mother who will be devoting more time to ensuring that my kids get through all of this, and can withstand what is ahead of all of us. i've never found the single life very exciting, at least no more than i found married life exciting. but the parent life is a blast!...Show more

Ha Wolski: Oh very much !After 6 years of mar! riage backed up with 6 years of friendship, I am finding her even more attractive. Don't get me wrong, we are a very ordinary looking couple (not the model cut bodies!). So it has nothing to do with the physics.We have gone through phases of extreme strong feelings, to very cold relationship, and even to very slight cheating (each in our own way!) which has not been left unnoticed by the other. But we have talked it out. But the most important thing is to know each other , before expressing love feelings. If not, you might go blind about many issues that can get on your nerves later when you step in to the routine life. Take a deep look, but don't be picky. Remember that both sides MUST change as far as they can. Marriage is not just about sex or sharing the life, it is mainly based on your adaptability. Our trick is "Never sleep on an argument", I mean. if it needs talking about it all night in order to sort it out, why not. So definitely we have no sleeping on the couch ! !!!Also, set this once and for all; all beautiful people & things are r! eally admirable, so there is no problem if she points out a handsome man, or I show her a gorgeous woman (as long as it ends right there!) Good luck

Thurman Buege: Hard to understand. But I think you are talking about a woman who complains about everything but does nothing to improve the situation.Complaining can become a very bad habit. Talk to her about it and tell her it is very unpleasant to be around someone who complains all the time. It takes the joy out of everything.

Wally Perrien: I'm as attracted to my wife now as I was when we first met. Sometimes I can't even get her out of my mind! We've been married almost eight years. That said, the tendency is for it to fade, but there is a reason for it: lazy and/or selfish people. If you put the work in, it can stay hot perpetually.

Asley Quickle: Donot know how do I solve. Looks to be wasting valuable time ?Neither have new one to setle. really unrest... can some one suggest how do i get her off

Janita Tetlow: Well we knew each other for a while but after we started dating we were married in a week! We have been together for 6 years now and have 2 beautiful children!

Branden Roddick: I think that I understand what your question is. If she does not enjoy what you are doing but she still stays lying there with you. Then I think that what she is wanting you to do is to ask her if you have hit the right spot. You are not showing her that you are interested in fulfilling and giving her a reason to enjoy, that is why she is not telling you or leading you to her most sensitive areas.That is also why she is complaining about petty & silly issues daily, you are not giving her the satisfaction that she honestly needs. Why don't you ask her and show her that you are interested in pleasing her? That should help you to start getting her off! LOL Good Luck!...Show more

Lester Haschke: It depends on what state you live in.

Stevie Kizziar: Yes! And in most stat! es it takes a whole to get approved. If you want to get married the sam! e day you apply for ur license go to Vegas. You can get hitched in one day. Good luck. I wish you love and happiness.

Kimberlee Bowdish: I've been married for a few years, and I think sometimes when I'm annoyed with him that he's hideous. There's just those off days ... but sometimes he can just be watching TV and I really like the shirt he's wearing.. and his arms just look sooo good in it... i think every marriage is like that after awhile. As long as it's more of the good than the bad, it works out. Not everyone can be attracted to someone ALL the time. And I do still love my husband, very much.

Zulema Baccam: Marriage is a blessing from God. I don't have a dream marriage but it is better than being alone and plus I have children involved. Hey, nobody is perfect don't forget, neither are you. Proverbs 18:22 " [Whoso] findeth a wife findeth a good [thing], and obtaineth favour of the LORD.""...husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who lo! ves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it..."Ephesians 5:25...Show more

George Dingeldein: I'm currently going through divorce. It's been a long drag out process for the last 3 years. Finally I filled this past spring. I know what you're talking about. Whenever I talk to people who are contemplating divorce, I usually only encourage them to work it out when there are children involved. We have a 9 year old son my husband and I. Our son has been through so much with the separation, the divorce, and the emotional instability he feels. Hind sight is 20/20 they say, and had I known what an impact this would have had on our son, I think I would have tried harder to keep the marriage. I look back and there are so many regrets I have but you live and learn. I'm not saying I would get back with my husband because I'm beyond that now but people who have children should have more integrity and try to work it out! . *If it's realistic that is and also if it's not an emotionally or ph! ysically abusive situation. As for the "single" life. You know how that goes,,,,the people who aren't single wish they were and the one's who are wish they weren't. Can't have it all : - ) But we can try....Show more

Marhta Teahan: You are asking a question that goes through many married couples minds at different times in their married lifes. My husband and I have each been married once before and we have been married now happily for almost eleven years. We have had our ups and downs but have never given up. As time goes by it is not so much if you are still attracted but the attraction changes. When the lust wears off, you really find out if you are in love or not. I now find my husband more attractive when he is folding laundry or helping with the kids than when he use to be half naked. Never forget to make time for each other. Sometimes we just email each other. If it is truly love you will never lose the attraction just watch for the change.

Mack Ukich:! I have been married to my husband for a little over three years but we have known each other since March of 2003. I was attracted to him from the first time I laid eyes on him and I still am very attracted to him. He is the best looking guy I have ever seen or ever will see. And it is something that will not fade away.

Adan Alipio: It depends where you live. Mostly - yes. But certain places may have varying laws. Check with your local authorities and churches. =)

Marcel Then: I'm still attracted to my husband, and I love him more than ever. We've been married for five years, but I can't see my feelings for him doing anything other than growing stronger in the years to come.Things have definitely changed since we first met. We used to show a lot of pda (hugs and kisses), and we don't do that so much anymore. But we've been through things together that I would never want to go through with anyone else. I think it sometimes seems like attraction is falteri! ng, but only because we don't say it as much. But the reality is we ha! ve found so many different comforts with each other.No matter how busy or complicated our lives get, I always feel better knowing I have my husband to come home to.

Kenneth Queener: Divorce was one of the hardest things I have gone through in my life. I would not wish this on anyone. I value marriage and believe that it is a commitment sanctified by God. To break such a commitment is a serious issue that has repercussions that can last years or a lifetime. You need to make sure that you and your spouse have exhausted all possibility of reconciliation before contemplating this course.

Randa Hessell: Yes.

Willetta Munhall: I'm twice divorced and I don't take marriage lightly. Depending on the circumstance (if abuse isn't taking place) if one cared about someone at one time enough to marry them, then it makes sense to be 100% sure you are done with that relationship before getting out of it (because it is expensive typically, and often hard feelings develop d! uring the divorce process as finances and material possessions are being divied up).If someone knows they are 'done' with their marriage and they don't desire counseling or any trying to work it out, then fine...they should go if that's what is right for them. However many of us divorced people aren't advocates of divorce....we're advocates of people making the best choice for themselves in the long run (be it staying together or not).Being single has plusses and minues, being in a relationship has plusses and minuses. I've been single many years now and while I don't care if I never marry again, I would like to have someone special to share life with. Until that happens (if it ever does) I will continue to make my life as a single person as groovy as I can. ☺☻...Show more

Shawn Lelis: i think what they mean is make sure you try everything before you just toss the vows you made out the window. people treat marriage like crap these days

Catheryn Barringer: p! unch her in the throat

Flor Lizardi: I don't think either the sin! gle life or the married life is any more "exciting" than the other because they are different and both have their pros and cons. I'd say most people who are divorced tell you to stay and try and work it out because divorce is not an easy thing to go through and they are trying to spare you some hurt and heartache. That said I would NEVER encourage someone to stay in an abusive marriage because in that situation divorce would definitely be the less painful of the two choices....Show more

Andre Winegar: Because when they divorced their spouse at one time, they figure maybe if they would have struck in their things would have change, so they give advice to others that might be going thru of what they been thru, so they might give advice to other as saying tried to work it out.

Frank Gazaway: I have been married 35 years. I still find my wife physically attractive. Over the years our bodies change. Gravity is a bummer. But we change slow. We don't see the chang! es. So as far as I am concerned, she looks like she did when we first met. In the Bible (no I am not a Bible thumper - but it gives good advise), Solomen (reported to be the wisest man ever) makes several comments about husbands and wives. In many places he says things like blessed is the man whose wife is... and then he make comments like her not being quarlesome, her being friendly, compassionate, attentative, etc.. No where does he say blessed is the man whose wife looks like a 19 year old, or has a body like... you get the idea. There is an old song, "Ugly women make good lovers." It is not the looks. It is what you do and say; how you act, what you do with your time....Show more

Sammy Kar: ya just gotta pick the right one. The first 8 months of my marriage i felt guilty because i was too happy. Then she started getting abusive and ruined everything. had it not been for that i would have stayed intense. just split up after 13 years of nonsense. Yes getting b! usy, especially with kids takes a chunk out of quality if you don't kee! p your relationship filled with purpose.keep making sure you are on the same page and talk often about your expectations. it dictates the "temperature" of the marriage

Rosio Pasculli: Just wondering if this tends to fade, stay the same or get stronger over the course of a marriage even though lives can get busy and complicated.

Rashad Marecki: I will be married to my husband 20 years in November and I think my connection with him is stronger. Has it changed over the years, absolutely. It's gone from lustful to loving. It's gone from needy to caring. It's gone from just the two of us to the 5 of us. Unfortunately, we don't get a lot of quantity time together because he's a truck driver gone 2-3 weeks sometimes at a time, but when he is home, we try to squeeze every bit of "quality" we can into our relationship and into the relationship he has with our kids. I couldn't imagine being any more content (other than financially) with him than I already am.

! Sol Bayn: Because divorce is ugly. Lawyers are the only people who are financially better off after a divorce. No matter how much she steals, it won't be enough to last. If you're married, stay married. If you're not married, don't marry. It isn't that single life is more exciting. Controlling your own assets and day to day life is more comforting.

Elsie Resner: Tell her forcefully how you can't stand her negativity and that you'll leave her if she doesm't quit. Give her awhile to get it together. Expect relapses. If she can't do it dump her.